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Terrence Timmons
Terrence Timmons
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Bachelor of Arts (BA), University Of California, Santa Barbara 2019
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You're happier when you're deluded. Surprised? Well, "Stumbling on Happiness" navigates through the labyrinthine terrain of human emotions, psychology, and neuroscience to help you grasp why the future you're dreaming of may not necessarily bring you the joy you expect. Here's the kicker: Humans are unparalleled at predicting the future but abysmally inaccurate when it comes to forecasting their emotional state. That’s right, your mind tricks you into believing in a kind of happiness that might not even exist.
We humans live under the presumption that more money, a perfect spouse, or an ideal job will make us happy, but the neurological wiring inside our craniums often sabotages our pursuits. The book dives deep into "affective forecasting," dissecting why our brain's projections about future happiness are often far from accurate. The reality is that we are preprogrammed to adapt, making our peaks of joy and valleys of sorrow far less extreme than we anticipate. Have you ever wondered why winning the lottery didn’t make that guy perpetually ecstatic? Or why the bite from the apple of success can sometimes taste so bitter? It's because our "psychological immune system" is always at work, normalizing our emotions and thus creating a balanced, albeit imperfect, state of contentment.
We borrow experiences, stealing perspectives from others to imagine our future selves. But this "borrowing" is a double-edged sword. Because every mind is marinated in its own unique blend of memories, perceptions, and genetic predispositions, borrowing someone else’s emotional compass can lead us astray. "Stumbling on Happiness" is not a self-help manual but rather a mirror that reflects the quirks and idiosyncrasies of our thought processes. Through compelling storytelling, backed by research, the book dismantles our preconceptions and tickles our intellectual curiosity, ultimately urging us to stumble upon a more realistic, nuanced version of happiness.
Non-fiction
Psychology
Self-Help
Popular Science
Behavioral Economics
Affective Forecasting: The book discusses how people are notoriously poor at predicting their future emotional states. We often miscalculate the impact of events, both good and bad, on our happiness.
Adaptation: Humans adapt quickly to new situations. This affects how long-lasting the emotional impact of “happy” or “unhappy” events will be. Your joy over a raise or sorrow from a breakup dissipate more quickly than you’d think.
Psychological Immune System: This is the mental mechanism that helps you rationalize or reframe situations to make them more palatable, softening the emotional blow of negative experiences.
The Power of Perception: Our memories and current circumstances heavily bias our predictions about our future emotional state. Our minds selectively remember and imagine, corrupting our emotional forecasts.
Social Comparison: The book examines how people use others as a yardstick for evaluating their own wellbeing, a method that is inherently flawed due to everyone’s unique emotional makeup.
Reality vs. Expectation: There is a constant tug-of-war between what we expect will make us happy and the actual experiences that do. The book suggests that a key to happiness may lie in understanding this disconnect.
